So now that Lily is starting to say a lot more words, and repeating things that are said to her I put my foot down about my mom and dad's language in the house.
I put Lily's piggy bank on the kitchen table and told them I won't accept the swearing constantly anymore and that every time someone (myself included) swears they have to put money in Lily's piggy bank. I was going to make the fine $.10 but my dad decided $.25 would be more of a deterrant.. *remember this*
So day one I put a quarter in, my mom put $0.50 in and my dad put $1.75 in.. day two my dad put in $1.50 and my mom put in $0.50.. day three (today) My dad is up to $0.75 and he all of a sudden doesn't think this is a good idea anymore and doesn't think it is that big of a deal if Lily starts swearing.
According to him the words he uses (shit, damn, hell, ass) aren't "swear words" and it doesn't matter if she starts saying these words because they are all words that are said on tv all the time.
My response? So just because they say them on tv that makes them ok? Do you think everything they do on tv is ok? A swear word is a swear word, its one and the same. If Lily goes to pre-school saying those 4 words it is going to be just as bad if she went there saying any of the other ones.
He just doesn't like that he is the biggest offender. And he is the kind of person that refuses to put any sort of effort into anything unless it benefits him in the end. We constantly have arguments over the dogs and how they are to be handled and he refuses to even TRY to handle the dogs because that would mean he would actually have to DO something.
So now I'm kind of feeling like for the next 2-2 1/2 years that we are stuck here I'm basically going to have no say in how Lily is raised just because no matter how much I say that I don't like how my dad is doing something he won't listen to me.
Case in point his stupid copenhagen... I don't know how many times I have asked him to either keep it in his pocket or put it up on the mantel because I don't want Lily getting into it and eating it, because it will make her very sick.
He refuses to accept that it will make her sick, I've had to go over the ingrediants with him and drill into his head it is not to be ingested and just because he puts it in his mouth all the time doesn't mean I want it in Lily's mouth whether it will make her sick or not. Neither Andy nor I do any sort of drug and if we had it our way she wouldn't even be exposed to his drug but i can't make him stop so all I ask is that he keep it away from her.. but does he?
NO that would take effort. I don't know how many times he has left it down where she can reach it without me knowing about it and I come to find her carrying it around with her, one of these times she is going to open it and I'm going to kill him.
So I've had an epiphony. Throughout life your friends change and evolve. You have friends in grade school that you either lose by moving on to different high schools or if you are lucky enough you all go to the same high school you may stay friends.
Though as soon as the pressures of high school kick in, the pressure to be 'cool', to be part of the popular cliques some of your "friends" fall into different social circles and you make new friends.
Then after high school, usually by the time freshman semester at college starts you find yourself again friendless. Your old friends moved to different cities to pursue different college careers or they just stop checking in to see how you are doing.
Then after college the friends you made during those life changing 4-5 years usually keep in touch for a little while and then again fall off the radar.
When you get married you lose most if not all your single, unmarried friends just to make new "couple friends" that you will lose once the first baby arrives.
I was lucky enough to have the same friends from grade school into college and into the first couple years of my marriage before they disappeared.
Now I see them all getting married and maybe if we didn't have a child we might be able to get in touch again but I know newlyweds don't want to hang out with couples with kids.
So I was laying in bed during my sleepless night wondering when you make the friends you have until you get old, the ones you hang out with after retirement, vacation with after the kids are grown?
Are they the parents you meet after having kids? Coleuges at work?
I've made some new great friends since having Lily but I still miss talking to the friends I had way back in school. I wonder how they are doing, what life has brought them.
I just saw one of my high school friends (one of my best friends) at walmart today, I'm kind od sad because I seriously don't think she even recognized me. Obviously life has been busy for her, with a masters degree in college and a new husband maybe an old friend saying hi just want enough to spark an old memory.
So I was up all night.. basically once an hour checking on Lily and/or comforting her cuz she had a fever of 102 all night long (it did finally break around 4am and drop down to 100.6 so I didn't check her after that point until she woke up at 7).
But not only was I up off and on because of her everytime I came back to bed Andy was snoring up a storm so I didn't sleep. Urgh Usually I would just put ear plugs in when he was snoring but since Lily was getting up almost every hour I didn't want to put ear plugs in cuz then I wouldn't be able to hear her when she cried. So I was stuck laying in bed listening to him snore all night long..
Urgh I so long for the days where I could have kicked him out into the living room or even I could have went out into the living room but we are stuck in the bedroom since we are at my parent's house cuz my dad sleeps in their living room cuz he snores so loud and gets up 100 times during the night. So it was a fun night.
Now we are waiting for his parents to get here so we can go out in the madness and shop.. urgh.. lol I definitly don't mind shopping but I do mind his parents.. mostly his dad, I don't know he is just weird and kinda creepy.
So once they get here we will be going to the stores so they can get their xmas shopping for Lily done because they don't have any decent stores where they live.
I'm not looking forward to it, especially on little sleep. That and Lily's temp started going up again, it was 99.9 when she got up and when she went down for her nap it was back up to 100.8.. :-/
Hopefully it doesn't go too high she is already cranky and if it was my decision i wouldn't be taking her out in the stores with her not feeling well but i don't have a choice, his parents are driving 2.5 hrs to get here to shop..
Wow I can't believe that it is Thanksgiving day already! So not ready for the holidays to be here but I guess I have no choice. It is rainy and muddy and yuck today hopefully that means we will have a white Christmas (fingers crossed)...
The in laws are coming down saturday to shop and visit so God grant me patience lol
So I made a picture appt today cuz JC Penny is having 50% off mondays. I budgeted $80 for pictures and now with the 50% off we can get a lot more with that $80! So I made the appt for 2pm figuring Lily would nap from 11-12 like normal eat lunch and then we could go there and be done by the time she starts getting cranky at 4pm.
Yeah nice dream.. she has YET to actually take her nap and we have to go out and get her another pair of black tights before 2pm cuz I have no clue where the tights I got her went. They went AWOL.
So this should be an interesting photo session with a cranky tired 1 year old! Great planning mom!
